How can I heal from past sexual harassment?

Sexual harassment impacts people in more ways than one. Even if your workplace has sufficiently dealt with the issue, chances are you’re still caught in the emotional aftermath. Proper healing from harassment is important both professionally and personally. Very Well Mind recommends taking the following steps after you’ve experienced sexual harassment in the workplace.

First and foremost, do not assume blame. It’s too easy in this culture to assume that you did something to warrant the behavior that was directed at you. Keep in mind that this is in no way true. Harassers take action as a means to wield power over others and are completely responsible for their actions. How a person dresses or how friendly they are have nothing to do with being harassed. While you have no control over what happened or the actions of another person, you can control your reaction to what occurred.

If you’re having a hard time coping with the incident, consider writing down your thoughts in a journal. Many people find it cathartic to write a letter to their harasser to express the pent-up feelings and emotions they’re experiencing. This is also a great way to get things off your chest in a constructive and beneficial way. Along with writing in a journal, you can also seek out support from those closest to you.

When looking for a person to talk to, make sure he or she is sympathetic to your needs. People that will dismiss your feelings or tell you to simply get over what occurred won’t be helpful when it comes to your healing process. If there is no one in your life you feel comfortable speaking with, consider joining a support group or seeking out the services of a counselor.